Parents blaming kids for being human and having a hard time/messing up does not help them at all.
I know that sounds so obvious, but it's also common.
When kids tell me what they think their parents think of them based on the criticisms, complaints and even insults they hear and then I'm able to relay that back to the parents, the parents are usually totally heart-broken to realize that all their love and devotion is coming out in a way that truly hurts the kid and becomes the main obstacle to the kid's growth and sense of self.
We clear it up and create awareness, and the family gets a new shot at connecting no matter what has happened in the past.
It's so amazing to watch all of this unfold is less than 2 hours into meeting a new family. I'll never get over it.