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A Case For Mediation: The Impact Of Aligned Parents Is Major For Kids
A Case For Mediation: The Impact Of Aligned Parents Is Major For Kids

I hear parents harping on their kids' outcomes and results often without them ad...

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Is Your Kid Holding You Hostage?
Is Your Kid Holding You Hostage?

This is something I can help with!! 100%It's not going to be pretty, but it also...

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Your Love And Care Are Being Misunderstood: Here's Why
Your Love And Care Are Being Misunderstood: Here's Why

Parents blaming kids for being human and having a hard time/messing up does not ...

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Let Go Versus Let's F-ing GOOO: Acceptance Versus Aggression
Let Go Versus Let's F-ing GOOO: Acceptance Versus Aggression

The urge to want to fight, argue, prove yourself right, make others wrong, "get ...

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Are You Blocking Your Kid's Progress?
Are You Blocking Your Kid's Progress?

This cycle is breakable!Helping is not that helpful when it results in enfeebled...

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You Are RIGHT about Everything!
You Are RIGHT about Everything!

Even though YOU ARE RIGHT about what should be happening with your kid's perform...

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Random Comments and Critiques Shut Kids Down; An Alternative!
Random Comments and Critiques Shut Kids Down; An Alternative!

When you start to feel like your kid doesn't hear a word you say, you're probabl...

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This Idea Can Help You TODAY
This Idea Can Help You TODAY

I have a very easy (very hard if you're trying to be a savior though) way to get...

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Kids Usually Don't Feel Heard
Kids Usually Don't Feel Heard

I work with teens and young adults who wish so much that their parents would rea...

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Shame, Blame, Judgment: What If There's A More Powerful Way?
Shame, Blame, Judgment: What If There's A More Powerful Way?

This one is easy on the surface, but we have to look deeper to WHY that is the d...

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Are You Going Crazy?
Are You Going Crazy?

I love getting to the REAL REASON why your kid is shutting you out requires humi...

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Getting Unstuck Is Possible: No Circumstance Is Impossible to Change
Getting Unstuck Is Possible: No Circumstance Is Impossible to Change

You have done it before---> You have gotten yourself from stuck to unstu...

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Is Your Home A War Zone or A Soft Place to Land?
Is Your Home A War Zone or A Soft Place to Land?

Is your home a war zone?That could mean a silent war or a really loud one.That c...

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People Can't Do Better Than Their Environment Allows
People Can't Do Better Than Their Environment Allows

If you're being really honest, you know how hard it is to thrive in a chaotic en...

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Family Culture Examined Is Family Culture Improved
Family Culture Examined Is Family Culture Improved

I love this context for family!Sometimes it just takes a fresh point of view to ...

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Are You The Only One In The Family Who Believes It Can Get Better?
Are You The Only One In The Family Who Believes It Can Get Better?

Parents get stopped sometimes in creating the vision they believe in for their f...

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Is What You're Spending Money On To Help The Fam TRULY Making The Difference You NEED?
Is What You're Spending Money On To Help The Fam TRULY Making The Difference You NEED?

I've tried over the years to come up with a quick way to describe my role with&n...

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Maybe You Already Know What To Do!!
Maybe You Already Know What To Do!!

This is a VERY unusual take on why you'd hire someone to help with your family.....

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Has Your Kid Broken Your Heart?
Has Your Kid Broken Your Heart?

What if your kid's behavior and "acting out" are signals that something needs to...

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Kid Math: Why They Don't Think They Can Trust You
Kid Math: Why They Don't Think They Can Trust You

Honey, You can tell me ANYTHING! I just want to be here for you!!!!Then the...

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Two Client Stories, Beautiful Wins We Created Together
Two Client Stories, Beautiful Wins We Created Together

I had the most awesome family session last night. Of the four, the mom and son�...

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Why I Do What I Do
Why I Do What I Do

A little bit about why I do what I do...everything about my work is inspired by ...

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Kids, Send This To Your Parent
Kids, Send This To Your Parent

It takes a lot of courage for a kid to say they want to get some help with their...

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Since You Can't Divorce Your Parents
Since You Can't Divorce Your Parents

This is as relevant to young people as it is to adult children!Also, if you...

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How I Am Different From a Therapist
How I Am Different From a Therapist

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Missing Puzzle Piece?
Missing Puzzle Piece?

The young people who I work with all tell me the same thing...They feel like the...

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Nothing Can Substitute For Real Communication
Nothing Can Substitute For Real Communication

You can read all the books, listen to all the videos, take all the classes about...

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Meet Vanessa Hancock
Meet Vanessa Hancock

When I was growing up, I became acutely aware of the difficult relational dynami...

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