This one is easy on the surface, but we have to look deeper to WHY that is the default and get real about the impact on kids (and US too!) of being picked apart on a regular basis.
My work with families is based on nonjudgment. You won't leave our conversation with anything but feeling validated, encouraged, understood and respected...NO MATTER what you "admit" and uncover.
You're a human too. You're doing the best you can and I will give you so much grace AND a path to being the person you really want to be for your kids.
The outcome of that shift in you for your kids will be astonishing.